Anton Casey VS Kindness/Empathy
Friday, January 24, 2014
This post will come out as a rant so read only if you are interested.
And today, I read another article that was written by a SPH journalist called William Wan, who also happens to be the general secretary for the "Singapore Kindness Movement". You may read the article he wrote here : WHERE HAS ALL OUR EMPATHY GONE?
Remember my previous post where I mentioned the 5 things/people that annoys me and one of them was those who kept blaming the government for everything? Well, you can see them commenting on the article that William wrote.
Anton Casey made a really grave mistake and he was downright nasty when calling others poor and saying that we stink just because we take the public transport. But hey, we must admit that he is really rich right? He owns a Porsche and many of us don't. Still, that does not give him a right to condemn the rest of us who don't own a luxurious car like him.
The point of my blogpost today is to question this question.
-- HOW DO WE DEFINE KINDNESS AND EMPATHY?
I understand what the journalist meant when he said that we should all be more empathetic when it comes to forgiving Anton Casey after his apology whether or not it was sincere. Let's all not go around bashing expats just because of one sour prune here.
I seriously think that we have no rights to actually whine about getting Anton Casey deported because yes, he was nasty with his words but he did not physically harm anyone. Like "Heather Chua"... I do not know him and nor do I hate him, I just do not want him going around harming innocent young girls and setting traps for them. Many people I know says that I am very fierce and am quick-tempered but I also forgive rather easily.
Up till now, I still have not forgiven someone and I don't think that I will ever. But you don't see me whining about it all day long, do you? I wrote about it in a book to inspire and to warn ladies to speak up if intimidated but I do not whine about it all day long.
Whether it is Stephanie Koh's opinions or whether it is Anton's crude remarks, why harp over them? If you all keep whining about what they say, don't you find it annoying? Does their words really have such a direct impact on you all? Why are you so bothered and uptight? There is so much more to life.
The man who sexually abused me when I was 11 up till I was 14, I have not forgiven and nor have I forgotten about the incident but hey, I don't talk about him all the time. Karma will find it's way to him. I let him go off scot free and I am already setting a very bad example to the public because he was not put behind bars. What I can do now is lead a better life than him and stop harping on it.
The journalist wants us to be kinder and show more empathy towards others and I think I have set a very good example in being kind, to actually allow the monster who abused me to be free in the outside world.
I think the question here is not about being kinder or showing more empathy. I think what we can do as fellow human beings is to be more gracious towards people and situations. I always believe that there is no use whining about something or someone over and over again. Be gracious and move on with life. Everything will fall into place in the end. If not, it is not yet the end.
Up till now, I still have not forgiven someone and I don't think that I will ever. But you don't see me whining about it all day long, do you? I wrote about it in a book to inspire and to warn ladies to speak up if intimidated but I do not whine about it all day long.
Whether it is Stephanie Koh's opinions or whether it is Anton's crude remarks, why harp over them? If you all keep whining about what they say, don't you find it annoying? Does their words really have such a direct impact on you all? Why are you so bothered and uptight? There is so much more to life.
The man who sexually abused me when I was 11 up till I was 14, I have not forgiven and nor have I forgotten about the incident but hey, I don't talk about him all the time. Karma will find it's way to him. I let him go off scot free and I am already setting a very bad example to the public because he was not put behind bars. What I can do now is lead a better life than him and stop harping on it.
The journalist wants us to be kinder and show more empathy towards others and I think I have set a very good example in being kind, to actually allow the monster who abused me to be free in the outside world.
I think the question here is not about being kinder or showing more empathy. I think what we can do as fellow human beings is to be more gracious towards people and situations. I always believe that there is no use whining about something or someone over and over again. Be gracious and move on with life. Everything will fall into place in the end. If not, it is not yet the end.
On a happier note, come down to LUCKY PLAZA this weekend because OOPZ is having a clearance sale and you can also get your copy of "Jolene's Story" signed by me!!!!
Hui Qi and I will be there selling off all of OOPZ's items all at less then $10. NOTHING MORE THAN THAT!!!!!!!!!
1 pm to 7 pm. DROP BY AND SAY HI! :)
Labels: Anton Casey, Blog, Blogger, Daily Rants, Heather Chua, Social Media
I need advice.
Thursday, June 06, 2013
I hope the above title doesn't scare you but I really need some advice now.
How do I start?
I am lost and am stuck in a maze now.
I've worked full time for about 3 years now. I've been in the customer service line and mostly in the corporate sales line. The problem with me now is... I don't know what I want to do with my life, all of a sudden.
Yes, I am a published author and I am loving that fact. BUT, authors don't get rich and it's not as if I became J.K Rowling overnight. Sad to say, jobs that deals with art rarely pays well here. Still, nothing will stop me from continuing to write.
I left my first job because the pay was really little and even though the boss recognized my potential and said I excelled in the job, he wouldn't pay me more and instead hired more foreigners for the job paying them double of my salary.
I left my second job because I had fought very hard to get the commission I deserve but no, I never got it. I mean who stays in a sales job that doesn't pay commission? I work so hard to clinch sales and hit my target but I only get a basic salary. It just doesn't seem fair to me.
I got my scholarship from MDIS and I thought of working part-time during my studies from this year until 2015 but I know that it just would not work because I have to fend for myself, repay family's debts(FML) and pay the bills.
I tried out two jobs for a few months and it just is not working out!! The current one I am in.. It pays well but I am just so unmotivated because I have zero confidence that I can sell the product well AT ALL.
Sometimes, I feel so down as if my life is just screwed. I love to write, I want to act and I want to have my own business. I am hoping that Jolene's Story can be made into a movie but hey, who would have faith that it would sell? Jolene's Story is not even a bestseller. I have tried to market my book as much as possible but well, I am just a nobody. That's a fact.
Writing can't sustain me because I do not have enough experience OR qualifications to be an editor, a journalist or whatever writer.. even a web content writer because I am not good with handling websites. (even though I did a good job with LOBANG X.) I can't join the acting industry because I have a full-time job now and can't go for auditions. I went for a few before though and I never got selected. I need time and I need luck but sad to say, I can't afford to.
Being a 23 year old with barely any savings in the bank makes me feel damn lousy about myself. I don't spend a lot but I just use a lot of the money I earned to pay debts. That's bloody sad, I know.
I have an online blogshop with my bestie and although we are not any big brands but we do our best for it and hope to make it big one day. I have a registered business with James but this is only the beginning of our start-up and I cannot afford to quit my full-time to focus on it because I just cannot afford to.
I know that our previous generation are faithful and loyal people who joins a company and can last 10-40 years in there but why is it that I can't? I'm not even happy here, in my current one. People here asks me if I am autistic and why do I not socialize with people here? People here freak out after hearing about Jolene's Story and nobody is genuinely concerned about me, I don't feel any belonging here at all. And is it my fault? Am I supposed to go around the office and talk to everyone I see. Some are arrogant and proud and some judge me almost instantly after knowing about "Jolene's Story." Nobody actually supports it or have any intention to buy my book to understand more. Nobody is genuine. And if I leave, people will start labeling me a "job-hopper." I can't just bear with it if I am unhappy in a job, I would leave because I see no point in staying. A job is an everyday thing, how can I be unhappy everyday?
I stayed on in my previous sales job because I found a dear friend in a colleague. We had our fights and disagreements but we still stuck to each other like sisters every time we face storms in our jobs. At least I had her. I also stayed a year plus in my first job because I met really nice people there, like my beloved godmother for example. Is it that genuine people don't exist anymore?
I had a two month job in my a printing firm this year and it was horrible because I felt like such an outcast and right now, in my current one... I feel the same way too.
I am online on job portals trying to find a greener pasture again but will I really find one that I can last in? Or....
DOES THE PROBLEM LIES WITH ME?
I really don't know. If I can, I would quit this current one and focus on Lobang X to make it more established and stable and be comfortable on being my own boss.
I need a direction.
How do I start?
I am lost and am stuck in a maze now.
I've worked full time for about 3 years now. I've been in the customer service line and mostly in the corporate sales line. The problem with me now is... I don't know what I want to do with my life, all of a sudden.
Yes, I am a published author and I am loving that fact. BUT, authors don't get rich and it's not as if I became J.K Rowling overnight. Sad to say, jobs that deals with art rarely pays well here. Still, nothing will stop me from continuing to write.
I left my first job because the pay was really little and even though the boss recognized my potential and said I excelled in the job, he wouldn't pay me more and instead hired more foreigners for the job paying them double of my salary.
I left my second job because I had fought very hard to get the commission I deserve but no, I never got it. I mean who stays in a sales job that doesn't pay commission? I work so hard to clinch sales and hit my target but I only get a basic salary. It just doesn't seem fair to me.
I got my scholarship from MDIS and I thought of working part-time during my studies from this year until 2015 but I know that it just would not work because I have to fend for myself, repay family's debts(FML) and pay the bills.
I tried out two jobs for a few months and it just is not working out!! The current one I am in.. It pays well but I am just so unmotivated because I have zero confidence that I can sell the product well AT ALL.
Sometimes, I feel so down as if my life is just screwed. I love to write, I want to act and I want to have my own business. I am hoping that Jolene's Story can be made into a movie but hey, who would have faith that it would sell? Jolene's Story is not even a bestseller. I have tried to market my book as much as possible but well, I am just a nobody. That's a fact.
Writing can't sustain me because I do not have enough experience OR qualifications to be an editor, a journalist or whatever writer.. even a web content writer because I am not good with handling websites. (even though I did a good job with LOBANG X.) I can't join the acting industry because I have a full-time job now and can't go for auditions. I went for a few before though and I never got selected. I need time and I need luck but sad to say, I can't afford to.
Being a 23 year old with barely any savings in the bank makes me feel damn lousy about myself. I don't spend a lot but I just use a lot of the money I earned to pay debts. That's bloody sad, I know.
I have an online blogshop with my bestie and although we are not any big brands but we do our best for it and hope to make it big one day. I have a registered business with James but this is only the beginning of our start-up and I cannot afford to quit my full-time to focus on it because I just cannot afford to.
I know that our previous generation are faithful and loyal people who joins a company and can last 10-40 years in there but why is it that I can't? I'm not even happy here, in my current one. People here asks me if I am autistic and why do I not socialize with people here? People here freak out after hearing about Jolene's Story and nobody is genuinely concerned about me, I don't feel any belonging here at all. And is it my fault? Am I supposed to go around the office and talk to everyone I see. Some are arrogant and proud and some judge me almost instantly after knowing about "Jolene's Story." Nobody actually supports it or have any intention to buy my book to understand more. Nobody is genuine. And if I leave, people will start labeling me a "job-hopper." I can't just bear with it if I am unhappy in a job, I would leave because I see no point in staying. A job is an everyday thing, how can I be unhappy everyday?
I stayed on in my previous sales job because I found a dear friend in a colleague. We had our fights and disagreements but we still stuck to each other like sisters every time we face storms in our jobs. At least I had her. I also stayed a year plus in my first job because I met really nice people there, like my beloved godmother for example. Is it that genuine people don't exist anymore?
I had a two month job in my a printing firm this year and it was horrible because I felt like such an outcast and right now, in my current one... I feel the same way too.
I am online on job portals trying to find a greener pasture again but will I really find one that I can last in? Or....
DOES THE PROBLEM LIES WITH ME?
I really don't know. If I can, I would quit this current one and focus on Lobang X to make it more established and stable and be comfortable on being my own boss.
I need a direction.
Labels: Daily Rants, Emotional, Problems
Dicks Before Friends
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
I am sure many people can relate to this post today because it is an issue that most of us will face someday, somewhere, somehow.
People you've known the longest- you put them at the most bottom of your priority when you are attached. Isn't that very shameful? Doesn't that prove what kind of person are you?
I am no love expert but take some time to reflect if you are in a healthy relationship at all if when you quarrel with your partner, you'll go looking for your friends but when you are not in a quarrel, your friends don't exist.
I really dislike and disregard people like this. I have been in a 5 year long relationship and at times when I fight with my partner, I do not go running to my friends for that moment and than neglecting them right after my partner and I makes up.
One of the many people I cannot stand is when people have no respect and gratitude for people, whether it is you or your partner.
If you wait until you lose your partner than you realized that you have lost so many friends in the process as well, than it will be TOO LATE.
I am not talking about anyone in particular but hey, if the shoe fits, FEEL FREE to wear it :)
When you're single and ready to mingle, you stick around your friends and enjoy their company and their laughter and everything else.
And than? BAM! You get attached.
Suddenly, you go missing and you rarely could be asked out. Friends understand and give you their blessings because they are happy for you that you have found someone you love. But you are so ungrateful to your friends, those people who were there for you before you got attached.
If your partner truly loves you and thinks for you, he will love your friends and family like his own and he will hang out with your friends too. He will not tie you down and expect you to be his tail.
Disclaimer : This situation can be for both sexes.
If the relationship is an unhealthy one whereby you are always unhappy and ALWAYS quarreling every other day, your friends would be there to advice you, encourage you and help you step out of the craze.
When you have fights with your partner and is depressed, your friends are the ones who without hesitation be there for you and stand by you. If your partner does not respect your friends, you SHOULD NOT do the same. After the fight is over and you get lovey with your partner once again, you forget all about your friends. * Applause*
People you've known the longest- you put them at the most bottom of your priority when you are attached. Isn't that very shameful? Doesn't that prove what kind of person are you?
I am no love expert but take some time to reflect if you are in a healthy relationship at all if when you quarrel with your partner, you'll go looking for your friends but when you are not in a quarrel, your friends don't exist.
I really dislike and disregard people like this. I have been in a 5 year long relationship and at times when I fight with my partner, I do not go running to my friends for that moment and than neglecting them right after my partner and I makes up.
One of the many people I cannot stand is when people have no respect and gratitude for people, whether it is you or your partner.
If you wait until you lose your partner than you realized that you have lost so many friends in the process as well, than it will be TOO LATE.
I am not talking about anyone in particular but hey, if the shoe fits, FEEL FREE to wear it :)
Labels: Daily Rants, Friends, Gratitude, Shit
SATELLITE BFF.
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Hui Qi and I can communicate without words and she always says that we communicate through satellite.
Actually... I don't really like her lah, I quite hate her lor. She is such an annoying peanut.
So, she wanted to take part in my Levi's giveaway and I didn't allow her so she threatened me via email. I feel so scared now and I think I need extreme protection from bodyguards now.
Here was our email conversation yesterday :
2013/4/22 Lam Hui Qi wrote :
Hi Jolene,
I know you when I was in Hougang sec! You rem not? Same class. And landyard??
And Vincent?
I love following you cos I like to see you act cute face.
PLEASE LET ME WIN!!!!!!!!!!!!
You owe me ice cream and 3 fish balls FOREVER.
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
10:49 AM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
Application rejected.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
11:39 AM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
Pls give me a valid
reason
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
12:38 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
You never attach photo
of you following me on Twitter.
No more second chance.
Kthxbye.
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
12:39 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
It is not the right
way to treat your fan
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
12:53 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
You did not obey
instruction. Cannot talk to your idol like that okay. Shoo.
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
12:54 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
You asking me to shoo?
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
2:53 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
你很吵啦。去炒一盘啊力哦，哦力哦。
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
2:56 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
酱讲就不对了wor. 关面什么事
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
3:11 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
3:59 PM, Lam Hui Qi
wrote:
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
4:19 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On Tue, Apr 23, 2013
at 4:25 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
Hen chio leh. 我们可以生孩子
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
4:57 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
Eeeee, I am formally
rejecting your request for sex.
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
5:54 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
For the sake of more
beauty in Singapore.
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
6:47 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at 8:51 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
Why your blood is
green one? Eeeeeeee
Best regards,
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
9:25 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
I am so going to blog
this conversation. Make you famous.
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
9:52 PM, Lam Hui Qi wrote:
Please credit me. Tank
ni de kwew
Best regards,
Best regards,
Hui Qi
On 23 Apr, 2013, at
10:22 PM, "Jolene Goh" wrote:
Excuse me. You have
not update your blog since 1 million years.
Yours sincerely,
Jolene Goh
On 23 Apr, 2013, at 10:28 PM, "Lam Hui Qi" wrote:
What is a blog?
Best regards,
Hui Qi
SO,
if you managed to read through the whole conversation above, you must be damn bored and I thank you for your patience. Now do you guys understand the pain of having a mentally unsound friend like her?
Xoxo, till the next time!
Labels: Daily Rants, Friends, Friends :), Giveaway, Gratitude
Instagram-whore.
Tuesday, April 09, 2013
Here are 10 reasons why I think you should follow me on Instagram.
(1)I think I am cool.
(2) It's okay if you think I am not.
(3)I think I am cute.
(4) It's okay if you think I am not.
(5) I put in a lot of effort choosing the right filters for my photos.
(6) 3 points for effort no?
(7) Your Instagram feed will be better with my face popping out now and than...or all the time =X
(8) The food photos I post are way better than yours
(9) I didn't mean that, don't hate me.
(10) There is no specific reason but I really think you should follow me!
If you do not have an Instagram account, WHAT ARE YOU? Alien????????????
Go create one now and follow me!
STEADY LAH!
Labels: Daily Rants, Instagram, Rubbish Post
