Today, I am going to write a really wordy post although it is a Friday and I am supposed to be happy. I just feel the sudden URGE to have to address this issue because it has been biting me for a very very long time. I am not targeting this post to only girls but I really have to talk about it or else I don't think I can fall asleep tonight.(Chey,fake!)
ANYWAY, here is the thing. I know this ONE person in 2008. We were really close at some period of time but our friendship was not those super glue type because I got really tired of being the one who puts in so much effort in maintaining a friendship. She is now a mother of TWO. She gave birth to her daughter while her boyfriend was in jail. I was there for her when she had to take care of her son herself while waiting for her boyfriend to be out of prison. She wasn't very faithful actually because she was having flings with different guys even though she was a mom. As her friend, I just let her be as long as she is happy and well, she wasn't married at that time anyway.
Her boyfriend was released from jail and they got back together. She conceived another baby boy, their second child and they got engaged with plans to work hard together for a bright future and to arrange a beautiful dream wedding for them. And we all thought it would be a happily ever after.....................
BUT NO. Problems kept arising because her husband couldn't keep his penis just for her and her on the other hand didn't save her vagina only for him. Sorry for being so direct and crude but I don't have any other way to direct this message to everyone other than to be DIRECT with you all. He kept going out to drink with his buddies, hanging out late and sending secretive messages behind her back. She found out and she was furious but at that time there was nothing much she could do except to throw a tantrum because she and her two kids relied on him financially. The problems came and went and they broke up and got back together so many times. I don't know whether it was for the kids but I don't think so. During the cooling down period, the husband will be out fooling around with other women while she herself, will be out with other men. James and I even fetched her and her son to other guy's place before. Yes, she went to rendezvous with men while bringing her son along because her parents couldn't take care of 2 kids at once. It irked me a lot but for goodness sake, she is 22 years old. What could I do to stop her?
It came to a point where I was always there for her helping her through every single shit she went through but she never appreciated it. She was NEVER there for me and I was so exhausted because every single time she quarreled with her husband, she will ask me how to deal with him, how should she text him etc etc etc. Its not even my marriage, why don't I marry him instead? Every time something like this happens, my heart aches for the kids because they always have to suffer for something they had not done wrong. Her husband loves drinking and partying and so does she. He loves to have sex with different girls and she loves to allow different men to have sex with her. I am very sensitive to something like this because I know how her children will feel as they should not be suffering! They should not grow up in a single parent family because their mother is a slut and their father is a bastard!
Every time she quarrels with him, she will move back home and bring the kids along. Their most recent quarrel, they both threatened divorce and they emphasized that there was no turning back. She did not bring the kids back home with her this time. She could not care less this time because WHY? She now holds a stable job, she can go drinking everyday and have sex with different guy everyday. Why allow the kids to tie her down right? I advised her to get a full-time job so that she can have enough finances to fight for custody against her husband if they ever really divorce but who knows, her finances are to be spent on alcohol, getting intoxicated than lead to different sexual encounters with her different flings. She really disgust me a lot. The point of this blogpost is not to diss about her and her sex life. What I would like to highlight here to all girls is that HELLO GIRLS, your body is not a freaking.....
I know that many girls are more liberal now and less traditional. We dress classy and show our bellies without being embarrassed. I am fine with that because hey, I am not a very conservative person as well. We all grow with the times don't we? But why are girls nowadays so..................... slutty? Cheap? Desperate? Ok fine so you don't keep your virginity until after marriage nowadays but giving your pussy to any other guys that comes along? That's really disgusting and even more disgusting if you are a mother of 2.
You gave birth to your kids and you have the responsibility to care for them. No matter how you slut yourselves out, you still have to remember your flesh and blood. I am not preaching here but do I get my message across to you girls? Protect yourselves, protect your body can? A girl is only wanted when she does not cheapen herself. I spoke to the girls in CHIJ TPY and I reminded them to protect themselves. Nobody will truly love a lady who is SO EASY to get. That is a fact of life.
Disclaimer : If you are offended by my post than I am so sorry, I did not meant for this post to be directed at anyone of you.
I didn't say you were a slut...I just implied that you don't sleep in your own bed too often.
If I hurt your feelings in any way I just want you to know from the bottom of my heart that I don't care.